I want to touch on a subject today that has been an eye opening issue for me and something that has come up recently in session for several of my clients, I do love synchronicity! It seems we have a little theme going on right now where those of us with big bright lights and big beautiful hearts seem to FEEL responsible for others. It is a lesson in life that some of us are learning; and that is that we simply cannot feel responsible for other people!

Feeling responsible for someone else’s happiness is a heavy burden to bear and comes with some serious spiritual consequences that I’ve experienced first hand and I can assure you I will never ever again feel responsible for another person after the spiritual backlash I received which was a huge torrent of toxic energy which nearly sent me over the edge, if I didn’t have such a strong sense of self it would have. To be clear, as parents we are responsible for our children for a time and this is absolutely not what I’m referring to.  Parents have a responsibility to teach their children many things as they grow into self sufficient adults at which point our responsibility ends. Ultimately, we are responsible for only ourselves and it is up to us to learn, heal and grow and no one else can do it for us.  No one else is to blame for where we are on our spiritual journey, no one except us. There is after all a bigger picture and we are where we are for a reason.  Only we can decide how we react, how we heal and how we create change in our world.  We are responsible and we have choices!

This may seem like a harsh concept but when you delve into it a little deeper it actually makes perfect spiritual sense.  Social conditioning and the way some of us were raised has created a belief system for us that says it is “bad” to be selfish, that we must put others first and think of ourselves last. In some cases and in small doses this is probably ok and not an issue but in most cases it is a recipe for disaster.  Blindly following this false belief system teaches us to ignore our intuition, ignore our own needs and self care and focus solely on those around us.  The 50’s housewife comes to mind as I write this and wow isn’t she just the perfect example!

At a spiritual level when we feel responsible for someone, we energetically take on full responsibility for them and their happiness and this means we open up an energy pathway which creates a direct connection and allows them to energetically dump all their unwanted energy; fears, anxieties and issues onto us because we are the one who is responsible right? And in turn this pathway allows them to take from you what energy they need; courage, strength or even your happiness for example; all because you have taken on responsibility for them on all levels. Scary right?  For me personally, I allowed myself to feel responsible for someone I felt a close spiritual connection to.  I knew this person was meant for great things, they had an incredible gift that wasn’t being used and I wanted to help.  I wanted them to reach their full potential which would’ve been incredible.  

But, here’s the thing, it doesn’t matter what purpose I can see in someone, all that matters is that they want to find their purpose for themselves and that they are prepared to do whatever their soul needs to get it.  Sometimes this means making some hard decisions and creating positive change.  Unfortunately, some souls take a wrong turn on their journey and there is nothing you can do about it.  Every single person on this planet is responsible for their own decisions, choices and behaviours and rightly or wrongly ultimately they are responsible for the direction they choose and where it takes them. 

In my personal experience and as I’ve discovered it has been the same experience for my clients also these people we seem to feel responsible for need the most help.  Many of them are in victim mode (which is another issue altogether) and they refuse to take responsibility for themselves, their choices, their actions and their own healing.  We see them floundering and we want to help them but this is where we can sometimes go wrong; I believe in every soul journey there comes a time where the individual needs to step up, they need to do some self analysis and take inventory of where they are and where they want to be and what they need to do to get there.  We can’t do this for them and we mustn’t because in doing so we take away their power and we take on their responsibility.  For many of us it’s the most difficult thing to do to take a step back and watch someone fall.  We can be there, we can offer our love but we can’t save them.  All souls require some solitude along their path, sometimes we need to sit in our beautiful mess for a bit, feel it all, move things around, feel uncomfortable and make our way back to our truth and then take responsibility for our own healing and seek healing and assistance if required.  If we all turned our focus inward towards ourselves there would be much less jealousy, blame and victim mentality in this ego focussed world of ours.

So do yourself a favour and take responsibility for yourself and your path and feel the power that you already have within, leave your ego at the door, connect to your spirit and follow your inner guidance and let those around you do the same.

We got this! 
Anna x