In my opinion there is a difference between a toxic soul and a person whose behaviour and actions are toxic. The latter is often someone who has not yet begun or is in the throws of their personal journey of self-knowledge, self-acceptance, self- love and personal healing; when they react or over react negatively it could be coming from a place of ego, emotional pain and turmoil or resentment which blocks out all logic, reason and connection to spirit. 

When pain and personal issues are left unhealed and unacknowledged the energy seeps out in various ways across all aspects of life and I’ve noticed that one of those ways is that they are often very reactive, they are easily triggered and their reactions can be pretty volatile. They can react with anything from a quick temper and a sharp tongue to a more passive aggressive type of behaviour. These souls take everything personally, coming from a place of high ego and low self esteem and they will do anything to avoid being called out on their crap because they simply aren’t prepared to deal with it. They will constantly seek outside influences for reassurance, acceptance and self-esteem. This doesn’t mean we have to put up with their bullshit though, no way! Call them out on their behaviour and give them space if they are pushing it too far, unfortunately, we can’t force someone to look within and seek help but we don’t have to be their emotional punching bag either. In my experience I have witnessed some of these souls do the work, they seek the healing and they grow spiritually, as they grow spiritually they raise their consciousness and lower their ego and let go of the toxic behaviour. Unfortunately, I’ve also witnessed and experienced souls who choose lets say the dark side, they don’t want to do the work, heal and grow and they remain toxic. 

So, how do we spot a toxic soul? How do we spot someone that we would do well to avoid at all costs? Short answer? Your intuition will tell you if you pay attention to how you FEEL around people! Everyone feels things differently and I believe everyone’s intuition works differently so it’s difficult to explain how you SHOULD feel because frankly there is no such thing as ‘should’ when talking about intuition. Some examples could be feeling incredibly uncomfortable around someone, unable to be true yourself, feeling that something is off you know just doesn’t feel right, authenticity is felt. You may feel nauseous depending on how sensitive to energy you are, you may experience a strong surge of anxiety like a massive alarm going off inside. There are many many ways you may experience a warning from your intuition and it doesn’t matter what it is all that matters is that you pay attention to it, heed the warning and don’t engage with a toxic soul.

I speak from experience, I’ve had my fair share of relationships, friendships and business dealings with toxic souls and every time I ignored or missed the warning signs it blew up in my face, every single time.Knowing yourself and understanding your own intuitive cues takes time and practice but it is an invaluable tool that we are all born with and with practice it can aid you in avoiding the drama and more often than not pain that comes with toxic relationships and friendships and give you the confidence to walk away when you should, before things blow up in your face.

So in the meantime, while you are perfecting your intuitive vibes what should you look out for? Well, toxic people have no real compassion or empathy at all. They are ultimately needy people; they need something from you and will take and take and take and rarely give anything back in return. A need for control will see them needing to control you in some way; control how you feel and how you see them as it’s important to them that you see them the way they want to be seen. They wear a multitude of masks of many different false facades to try and conceal their true self from not only you but also themselves often coming across passive aggressively as they see absolutely no issue with their own actions or behaviour.

Many times they believe their own mask as their truth, wearing a mask of authenticity and kindness they often feel victimised projecting their own feelings onto others as a form of defence taking no responsibility at all.If they feel they have lost control of you, they’ll try and control how other people see you! Nasty right? They take no responsibility for their actions, feelings or behaviour blaming everyone around them for their misfortunes and issues because they believe they can do no wrong.  Victim mentality! Having an inflated sense of self and entitlement a toxic person can see things only from their perspective propelled from where they are in that moment on their path with their own personal, spiritual and emotional growth which is usually stunted and stagnant.

When a toxic person doesn’t get what they want from you watch out! Duck and run for cover, as their rage can be quite ferocious. You can’t win an argument with a toxic soul, you never will, they see only their truth and react to their own feelings as they have absolutely no empathy for other people.Every time I come across a toxic soul I now cut and run, delete and block often with no explanation.  I no longer ignore my intuition and suffer the consequences later. I listen to myself and I pay attention and I keep my distance, it’s not worth the drama, the stress, pain or the trouble.

My advice is to focus on getting to know yourself and your intuition, trust it, it will not let you down, we are only let down when we fail to heed the intuitive guidance and warnings from our intuition and higher self and remember you can’t help someone who wants to be saved. 

Anna x