There is so much information coming through of late that suggests the importance of having a high level of emotional and spiritual maturity before entering into a romantic relationship. I have done many sessions pertaining to healing old wounds and broken hearts with my clients but recently there was one that highlighted just how dangerous it can be if we get involved too young. 

Scars Run Deep

I have done a lot of work with this particular client around a certain relationship that began when she was just 14 years old and the amount of work we’ve done illustrates just how deep the scars can travel in our soul.  This particular relationship was emotionally charged from early on and ran its course of on and off for approximately 6 or so years until finally ending for good. The first time the relationship ended was when my clients spirit broke and she totally shut down on an emotional level - extreme shock and heart ache followed her around for a lifetime in one way or another. The issue that surfaced recently was connected to issues around sex and intimacy and what came through was that this young man she was with 40 years ago had a barrage of sexual issues that he had projected onto her way back when unbeknownst to her. So many things in her life fell apart after and during this on and off relationship and it is almost impossible for a teenager to process. It came through in the session that this young man had been abused sexually and obviously this was something that he hadn’t even begun to heal for himself and the trauma had energetically been imposed onto my client. Can you imagine living as if you had suffered such a trauma even though you had not. Feeling the feelings, emotions and even having the physical reactions? The troubling and haunting thoughts, the confusion within oneself all compounded with her own issues of being completely shattered by the ending of her first love was undeniably near impossible.

Seek Self Knowledge, Self Awareness and Self Love First

While our bodies mature as teens our emotional and spiritual selves need more time to be nurtured before we share our most intimate selves with another person. Childhood and our teenage years in my opinion should be a time of growth, learning and nurturing, a time to learn about ourselves and discover who we are without being side tracked by puppy love and teen romances which cause more issues than you can even imagine and on so many levels too.

The most important relationship we will ever have is the relationship we have with ourselves. Seek self knowledge, self awareness and self love before you embark on a romance and you’ll find yourself attracting a partner not only on your wavelength but hopefully spiritually aligned with you also. It is healthier for you overall to wait until you’ve established a sense of self, a grounding core strength that will support you when you open up your heart and soul to another. It will support you in that you are less likely to take things personally and over react, less likely to lose yourself in someone else and allow you to form a partnership of equal standing emotionally and mentally. 

Being A Teen Is Hard

If my work has shown me anything at all about romance it is that we spend too much of our adult years healing and repairing the damage done in our childhood and teenage years that we do not need add to it by adding the trauma which can come from entering into romantic relationships too young. 

It is hard enough being a teen is it not? Why add the extra stress? 

Focus on empowering and building your sense of self first; at any age, and I promise you won’t regret it!