Soul Emotional
Recently I’ve been reflecting on how dangerous our culture can be or maybe has been over time when it comes to women and our emotions. I remember (and I know many of you will resonate with this) being called ‘emotional’ with the intent to insult me, that it’s something of a weakness or a bad thing to be ‘emotional’. Well I call bullshit.
“Every time you judge someone you are punishing them for not following agreements they never made” Don Miguel Ruiz Jr
Our emotions are sign posts within our soul which are unresolved or unexpressed feelings that we have suppressed or denied at some point over time and have become energy in motion which when triggered surface as strong emotion. When we have feelings we must honour them, allow ourselves to feel them, let them flow and take the opportunity to resolve and release issues. We learn from our feelings; our intuition can come through a feeling, we can sense danger through a feeling, release grief through sadness or experience pure joy. Whatever the feeling allow it to be felt.
As I write this I’m remembering a time when suppressed strong emotions surfaced within me when I was in my late teens. Unfortunately, at the time I didn’t understand what was happening and so I didn’t handle it at all well and it is an experience I’ll never forget. I was at the movies with a group of friends and we went to see Once were Warriors (a 1994 New Zealand drama film based on New Zealand author Alan Duff's bestselling 1990 first novel. The film tells the story of the Hekes, an urban Māori family, and their problems with poverty, alcoholism, and domestic violence, mostly brought on by the patriarch Jake.) It was quite brilliant actually but a tough watch and for me it triggered anger first, I was angry that all my friends loved the movie, obviously this anger was misdirected but I didn’t know this at the time. By the time I got home there was extreme sadness and actually from memory some hate. I remember getting home and exploding, actually screaming to the sky, my emotions were too much and I couldn’t handle them all at once, I cried for a long time and upon reflection this was probably the best thing I could’ve done at the time because the release allowed some healing.
Our emotional reactions indicate to us that healing on some level whether spiritual, mental, physical or emotional is required. It is an opportunity to learn and to grow and must be seen as such. There is nothing to be ashamed or afraid of and if we recognise this as an opportunity to heal and grow we are more likely to honour our future feelings and emotions. Knowing this also allows us to not take other people’s reactions personally, how someone reacts is out of our control and is their issue to heal. When we become self aware we create space for those around us to also become self aware.
Need to release or express some surfaced emotions? Try journaling or writing a letter and then burning it. If you are still struggling please book a session with me as some emotions go way back to past life experiences and require more than just our conscious release to heal them.
