Knowledge is Power
I've been thinking about the concept of like minds lately and the fact that I rarely resonate with ‘like minded’ people. I’ve been in many situations over the years where I’ve been surrounded by ‘like minds’ but I’m not going to lie, I’ve never felt comfortable and I’ve resonated with so few in each experience that it has left me wondering why?
Tuning into this issue taught me that it is because so many of us really don’t know who they really are. This is what I’m tapping into, this is what I can feel in these situations and this is why there is no resonance. You see people can say all the right things and they can even do all the right things but if they are not coming from an authentic place, that is felt and this is the place we need to come from more. Authenticity! But our intuition well this is what we need to learn to listen to and trust. Like minds mean zip if we don’t vibe, it’s all about the resonance.
The bigger issue here of course is that so many of us really don’t know who we are. Many of us were not given the freedom to self discover without judgement and criticism, our individuality, our spirits weren’t celebrated. Instead we were encouraged to be a certain someone or behave a certain way, care what other people think or even follow a certain path with no thought given to who we are and what we want. And some of us were bullied so intensely growing up that we were afraid to be our true selves because who we are was punished and ridiculed and life was somewhat easier if we hid and suppressed our spirit or worse became people pleasers.
There are many reasons why self knowledge was missed but there is no reason why you cannot begin the journey to healing and self discovery right now.I had an incredible but confronting session with a beautiful client recently and with her permission I’m going to share some of what came up because at the core of this session it’s about a soul who lost her way trying to prove she was worthy.
The session began with the client sharing that the past few weeks have been really rough, she’s been feeling really angry, to the point of wanting to give up but she really didn’t understand the anger. The first piece of information coming through was around her feeling judged and criticised in her early twenties, there was also fear of abandonment and fear of being alone. I got that there was a monster inside that was time for her face, I found she was still holding onto hurt and wouldn’t let it go with a need for vengeance along side anxiety, jealousy, depression, guilt and blame. At this point the client told me that this was when she broke up with her boyfriend at the time (her husband now) because he was cheating on her. It took a couple of years but they got back together and married. The information that was coming through was that the issue was at the time her focus was on a need to be right, a need to prove herself and make the relationship work instead of seeing it for what it really was.
This created a pattern of always putting him first before herself and doing everything possible to ensure he never cheated again. This was done mostly sub consciously but created a great deal of toxic energy in the gut which connects to the brain affecting thoughts and this energy also flooded the solar plexus with toxicity which is the seat of our self esteem. She’s lived a life to prove that this relationship can work - not for love - to prove a point that she’s right, that it can work and that she’s enough and doing this she’s lived against her truth. She’s not living as her authentic self when her focus is making sure someone else can see she’s right, she’s not living her truth. It is important to note that most of this was done subconsciously. She was proving her worth to someone who at the time didn’t deserve it.
There was a lot of denial for her around her own truth and a lot of anger towards herself. I found she was always worried, there was no fun and she was lacking love; in what she does, in who she is and in where she is. A fear to speak her mind was also a big issue here. This was a confronting session, potentially life changing and a massive reminder to be true to yourself.
The moment we are not true to ourselves we stray from our path and we lose our way and often we force ourselves to belong where we really don’t. If there is one thing that should be taught to every child it is this; Find yourself! Discover what you like and what you don’t like, what do you enjoy? What are you passionate about? What do you believe in? What makes you feel joy? Where do you feel at home? Learn to listen to and trust your intuition, it is there for you to use so use it! How on earth can we be expected to make life decisions in our twenties or at anytime at all really if we don’t know who we are? Knowledge is power and knowing yourself is the most powerful of all.
Much love,
Anna x