Through my energy work it has become quite apparent to me that so many of us don't know who we are, it is an issue that comes up regularly in my sessions with clients who come to me feeling lost, depressed or anxious and unhappy within themselves, some have experienced an emotional break down and some look at their lives and think they “should” be happy but acknowledge that they don’t feel joy and happiness.  

Many of us are waking up to the fact that this is a huge issue for us spiritually as well as in our daily lives impacting our work, relationships and how we feel each day.  We live in a ego driven disconnected world, a materialistic, superficial world and while some of us are embedded in this world many of us are simply stuck and are searching for a way out.  Consider this; how many of you grew up and simply followed what was expected of you from either your parents or society? Now, how many of you really considered is this really the life your soul desires? Why are so many women waking up in their late 40’s and even 30’s feeling unfulfilled and wondering is there something more to this life?

Because we never took the time to learn about ourselves, we never took the time to get to know our soul and our spirit. We are so busy making a living, looking for a partner, having children and doing all the things that we think we should do that we miss this important step in our personal growth and eventually it blows up in our face as depression, anxiety, feeling lost and often unhappy in our marriages.

How can you find a love when you don’t know who you are to begin with? How do you make a life if you don’t know what you want?  Can you love yourself if you don’t know who you are?

As women we are lacking our personal power and our personal power stems and is anchored in knowing who we are as individuals; as a soul and spirit. As little girls we know who we are, as little girls we instinctively know what we like and what we don’t like, who we like and who we don’t AND we don’t question it! We trust our instincts, we are not afraid to change our minds, we are not afraid to explore and learn and grow, even when we fall down we just brush ourselves off and get up and try again. An example of where we have gotten confused as women is we have forgotten how to please ourselves; little girls dress to please themselves and no one else!! Little girls choose clothes that they like the look of and that they feel comfortable in.

My daughter is a great example of this, as a toddler she refused to wear anything else but a little pink tutu for a year and I can promise you there were absolutely no fucks given, even in winter when she threw on a pair of leggings or track suit pants underneath to keep her legs warm and they bunched up quite a lot in the rear; no fucks were given!! Even now as a 12 year old she dresses for herself and I adore her style, it's 100% her and she always looks and feels comfortable and self confident. I particularly love that occasionally she will put on a hat or throw up a messy bun instead of doing her hair to go out for her coffee/hot chocolate date with her dad on a Saturday morning! Little girls sometimes don’t brush their hair, because they are not concerned with what YOU think they should look like they are too busy to care about hair or anything else you think of them, they have toys to play with, paintings to create, games to play and things to do!

As we grow up we are susceptible to our mothers, our friends and our families projecting onto us who they think we should be, we sub consciously collect a myriad of false beliefs, thoughts and opinions from said friends and families and also from society, TV and now social media on how we should be that we have become either become confused, lost or forgotten who we are, we get stuck on the merry go round of life and on a daily basis go about our life doing what is expected of us, being who we think we should be, doing what we think we should be doing without giving it much deep thought because we either don’t spend enough time alone to listen to our soul or we are driven by fear. Fear of rejection, fear of being alone, fear of criticism etc 

I spend a lot of time in session with women clearing false beliefs and subconscious energy blocks and fears that were either learned behaviour from their mothers or projected onto them by a insecure friend or family member. Sometimes we carry other peoples fears and believe them to be our own when in fact they are not. Knowing who you are isn’t hard work but it does take time, effort and a level of courage especially if you have to heal and clear out what isn’t yours first.

Start by carving out some time in your daily life to sit with yourself in silence and in solitude. No screens, no interruptions by your notifications on your phone, just you and yourself and your soul and a journal. When you sit with yourself you’ll begin to notice things, thoughts, feelings, emotions, impressions and this self awareness is critical in self knowledge. Without this time we are nestled in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives and we miss feelings, we miss that nagging feeling that is trying to tell us something so it becomes suppressed, we miss the thoughts that keep popping up to indicate healing is required around a situation or issue from years gone by and so this too is pushed aside and becomes a energetic block, and importantly we forget to think for ourselves and form our own opinions.  Use this time to learn about yourself, what are your boundaries, morals and ethics? What do you really love to do? What are you passionate about? Who are you really?

This is deep sacred work and it is an incredible time for women to step into their power and know who they are and what their purpose is. Remember your wild woman nature, we are more powerful than our limiting beliefs and it is about time we healed our souls, re. claimed our power and Embraced Our Souls! 

Anna x