How many of you use the word should? In my opinion it is one of the most destructive words we use and it is how we use it and the power we place on this little word that is so incredibly self destructive. If you find your self- talk contains the word ‘should’ I’d give it another look before giving it any weight.I have a client this week struggling and this particular issue came up in her session, she is telling herself, she ‘should’ be happy, she ‘should’ feel love, she ‘should’ spend time with such and such, she ‘should’ do this or do that etc and with all of these ‘shoulds’ she’s beating herself up for not being as she 'should' and while doing this she's not allowing herself to actually feel whatever it is she is feeling. Sometimes we take a step back and we look at where we are in life and we take stock right? Healthy concept for sure but only if you are honest with yourself, there is no shame in feeling sad, feeling unhappy, feeling depressed, feeling lost or angry and there is no sense in denying your feelings with self talk of such things as "Well I should be happy." Denying yourself your true feelings is denying your true self and denying your true self will block all of your truth.

There is power in acceptance. Accept yourself just as you are, accepting where you are right now and accept how you feel right now. This is where I am, this is how I feel, nothing more, nothing less; no self judgement, it just is what it is and that’s OK. There is no ‘should’ in self- acceptance, there just is.If you find yourself lost in the world of ‘should’, take a step onto the road of self acceptance and stop comparing yourself to others, we are all walking in our own shoes, on our own path, there is no race and there is no one way to be, think or feel.

Be as kind to yourself as you would be your best friend, be gentle on yourself and accept yourself just as you are right now. Self-acceptance will lead you to self- knowledge and self- love and that my friend will lead you straight towards your power and that is where the fun really begins.

Anna x